Why would anyone in 2025 want a second wife?

Maybe I am upset about whatever happened in my life. But why would anyone want two wives? Most cases, these guys would have cheated on the wives for a significant amount of time and then got married to that woman.

I also don’t think its fair to expect the first wife to adjust when the second wife is just irritating you to leave the husband so that she can be the only wife. Why dont women like that marry someone single in the first place? Why must they snatch someone else’s husband?

Also, why isnt getting a second wife deemed as cheating? I feel betrayed! I feel lost! I haven’t slept for days. I hate myself. And my husband has no regret about what he did because he thinks he has the right to marry! He drinks, smokes, had 2 extramarital affairs before this one, hardly prays and still uses deen as his cover.

Sometimes, I wish he would just tell me sorry. He refuses to live with me because it will hurt her. What about my feelings? He hurts me everytime with the words he uses. He keeps supporting her, praising her and says he enjoys living with her. Whereas, I have been at home since a year.

And after all this mess and agony he has caused me, he refuses a divorce. I wish the man was dead. Because that would have made it so much easier for me to move on.

I am sorry for the rant. I am in a very difficult position. My life is over. And this man who ruined it has no remorse because he says religion permitted him and that its sunnah.