“Is it ok if I do/don't X?"

Guys, you can literally do whatever the fuck you want. Stop asking for permission. Yes, you’re still “trans enough”. You don’t need to go on hormones or have surgeries or change your name to be trans.

The more we divide our community with arbitrary rules about who is “valid,” the more we push people away. It’s pointless to fracture an already marginalised group over things that don’t even matter. The only person who can decide if you are trans is you. Instead of fighting amongst ourselves, we should fight for our shared liberation. Our unity as trans people is enough—nothing more is needed to bring us together.

And yes, it’s bad that your partner is transphobic.