Got kicked out of a friend group because I “disrespected” her parents

It was so abrupt as well. The planner didn’t even tell me I got kicked out, I asked another friend to call her to ask if I could come, she said “no”. I was so broken and hurt by this, I genuinely looked forward to hanging out with the only people I trust. And now I get kicked out all of a sudden without any warning. I admit what I did next was pretty childish but I got so angry I posted the story on my Insta. I didn’t explicitly mention any names but it was enough to know who it was.

She then responded and said that I got kicked out because I disrespected her parents. She gave me these reasons.

1: When her father came to meet us, everyone stood up to greet him…except me. I didn’t know what to do in a situation like this. Plus literally every father I met in my life is very chill and don’t care how you greet them, they’re just fun people. So I thought this wouldn’t be any different. I know I should’ve stood up with them as well, but I mean I’m not greeting the president, I’m greeting a casual father.

2: When the father came to shake my hand, I did what I call is my signature handshake (where someone goes for a handshake and as out hand get closer, I close my hand to a fist, and he basically shakes my fist kinda like this: 🫸🏻🤛🏿). He didn’t even notice it at all and just went on with this day, he showed no sign of irritation. I didn’t mean any disrespect at all. I was just trying to have fun to know him more and just wanted to lighten up his mood.

And yea, those were her reasons why I got kicked out. Looking back at it, while I did act a little childish towards an elder and should’ve treated him like a true gentleman, I still don’t know what warranted a ban from the house.

1: These reasons were soooo minimal, I fail to see what’s so wrong about it. My friend acts as if I attempted arson in their house or smth.

2: If I was truly disrespectful, why couldn’t the father tell me in person? Why would my friend just ignore me when I try to speak to her? They should know that I’m human as well and instead of kicking me out abruptly, they should reason with me and probably give me a lesson on manners. I’m willing to learn from my mistakes.

3: They judged me with unspoken expectations. They know that I’m completely new to the house so I’m unfamiliar with the rules and etiquette of the household. They didn’t talk to me at all, they just labeled me a bad person and done. It’s like moving from America to Saudi Arabia, where laws are very different. Except I didn’t have to research because it’s just a friend’s house. My friend told me NOTHING about the rules.

4: My friend didn’t even tell me in person that I got kicked out. She ignored me as much as possible whenever I ask where we are going. The best I got is “idk” with a goddamn shrug.

I gave all my reasonings to her and said how it’s unfair, but also apologized if I offended her. She then responded with “good night”. She deflected all my points. She didn’t even reason with me, she didn’t even argue with me, she just ignored everything I said. Sorry, but that’s pure ignorance.

aaaaand the next day I find out that the friend group secretly hate me because of my mental illness. So now knowing this, idk if they are bringing up their parents to cover up THEIR true feelings, but I feel like it’s both. On one hand, I feel so betrayed and disappointed. On the other hand, I feel like it’s a blessing in disguise because a group that gossips and mocks someone’s mental illness is the last type of group I would ever be around with. So knowing the truth, I finally have a good reason to avoid them.

I feel like they are at fault, but considering how ALL of them are against me, I think it is my fault. It’s probably an attempt at gaslighting, but idk honestly. Pls tell me if I’m in the wrong or not. Thanks