Autistic men are still men / any ace girls here?

I've been struggling a lot lately with the consequences of being asexual + autistic. Just generally being very lonely, and panicking about how miniscule my relationship pool is.

I wanted to talk about it, but my asexual friends (women) are all different flavors of ace than me, and just generally weren't being very helpful... they all are happy to have sex, and I'm not. So I thought I could maybe find solace in some of my autistic friends (mostly men). Autistic men, after all, often have an even harder time with relationships than women, right? Maybe they would get it?

Reader... they did NOT get it. I'm really disappointed by the conversations I was having and the way that sooo many of them just checked out of the conversation or instantly made it about them.

Narratives and responses like: "Yeah I can't imagine not being able to get some, austistic chicks love me coz we share the 'tism"; or "I'm forever alone because of my autism I'd give anything to have sex and you're just refusing it?? My life is so much harder than yours"; or the amazing copout of "your brain is kind of fucked up, sounds way above my paygrade, you should get a therapist". All types of shit that just made me feel worse and even MORE unlovable than when I opened my mouth.

I'm really fuckin mad right now, and I just want to hear from people like me. Are there any other ace aspie girls here? Or at least, girls who want a non-traditional sort of relationship and have struggled with that...?