How’d you know you were aromantic?

I’m sure this gets asked quite often but it just hit me, at the ripe age of 27, that I might be aromantic. (Definitely not asexual though).

I’ve dated before and growing up I always had crushes on people but I’m realizing my idea of romantic feelings may not be “normal”. To me whenever I date someone or like someone it’s a “I wanna be best friends who kiss & sleep together but we still live very independent lives.” I treat my friends and partners pretty much the same which I guess isn’t normal ?

How did you discover you’re aromantic? What are romantic feelings even supposed to feel like? I dated someone for 7 years once and when we broke up I felt nothing ? I was more sad I was losing a friend than a partner. Then another guy I dated we decided to stay friends and basically have the same relationship now as we did when we were together except we see each other less often & don’t text 24/7. This is the longest I’ve ever been single and honestly have no want for a romantic partner and love being alone. Idk if it’s just me having commitment issues or if I’m actually aromantic.

Also idk if it applies but I have to force myself to do romantic things when I’m dating people. Like even Valentine’s Day & anniversaries are sooooo hard for me I don’t know what I’m supposed to do or what I’m supposed to be feeling if anything. I kinda just go through the motions of what I’ve seen on tv & movies.

Edited to add: the fact that I don’t want “romantic attraction” even is I think says a lot 💀 I didn’t even realize it was something lmao I have no idea what it means and am currently looking it up. So thanks y’all! I’m pretty sure I’m aromantic!