Message from a happily married person to all singles- Valentine's day is not a big deal!

Wanted to share this as I can see many singles in this sub...

I too was single once and used to be jealous of couples who gave each other flowers, chocolates and what not on Valentine's day. I would feel very lonely and slightly depressed at that time.

Currently, as someone who dated their spouse for a few years and then married them, I see Valentine's day as something that is overrated.

We didn't do anything special today, we didn't give each other flowers or chocolates and we don't even regret missing out on all that. Plus, we do have jobs. It's not just this year, most of our Valentine's days have been this way.

After knowing what a fulfilling relationship is like and seeing that many other married and unmarried couples don't share a deep love and affection for each other, I would advice singles not to be fooled by the couples who do excessive show-off of love on Valentine's day. In fact the couples who do all this publicly are the ones I would be a bit suspicious about.

Don't get me wrong, not all couples who celebrate Valentine's day are toxic. Many aren't! But I've seen some couples who make a big deal out of this day fight like crazy on other days and eventually get broken up to marry someone else in the end.

I've also seen married couples who take happy photos with each other yet their marriage is toxic.

Couples who truly love each other don't need one particular day to make each other feel special and they don't need outside validation of their love.

TLDR- Don't believe everything you see on social media. The grass might not be greener on the other side. It's better to be single on 14th Feb than be stuck in a toxic relationship. Try to ignore the show-off and most importantly, please don't feel lonely or depressed today (or any other day)! Please take care of your mental health. 🙏🏻