The discourse against both Mrs and the Apoorva controversy is messing with my head.

I would really appreciate some opinions!!

I know this topic has been discussed a fair bit here in other contexts, but even though the initial reaction the movie Mrs was supportive, lately I’ve been seeing more and more posts on all social media platforms, might I include, LINKEDIN, wherein men and women alike are questioning how the movie has painted the protagonist as a “bechari” and how simple tasks like cleaning the sink are “exaggerated” to be dehumanising- not to mention the victim-blaming on how she didn’t “try” to assert herself or make things change in the household.

And I know, I could try harder to block out such content but it’s like a train-wreck I can’t turn away from. I feel like whenever I come across such content, I want to comment back and raise points but it’s so emotionally exhausting to even look at it. It saddens me that this is conversation we’ve to have despite everything- how people refuse to understand the movie for its merits.

To top it all off, the non-believers are all around me- these progressive, educated men in my circles, are in the best case scenario, completely quiet about the movie- no man I know even wants to watch it, yet a few are vocal about contesting it. Nobody seems to be understanding. It might be my PMS but it makes me want to scream and cry.

These days I have so much rage inside me- both because of this AND because Apoorva Mukhija, a girl my age, is being dragged through the mud by both the media and the law for standing up to a disrespectful loser. I see the threats she’s been getting and it kills me. I genuinely believe she did NOTHING wrong, and to make matters worse, a millennial woman with a 4 year-old daughter in my close circle is supporting the legal case against her because, and I quote, “this stupidity of saying whatever you want in the name of comedy needs to be checked by the government” and “people need to be held accountable for their words”, seemingly regardless of context. Despite protesting as much as I could, I was told I was acting “high and mighty” as if I’m the sole authority on what is right and her opinion stands unchanged. (I also got mocked a fair bit for making an argument for free speech, but that’s not what is most concerning for me)

Is compassion well and truly dead? I want to raise two questions to the sub: one, are people hating on Mrs just around me or do you see it too? And secondly, could the older women (late 20s+) of the sub tell me if they also think what Apoorva did was wrong and why? I will provide context for it if people don’t know what was said to her and how she responded. A small request: please don’t give your opinion solely relying on hearsay because hearsay is rarely accurate when it comes to trying to shame and silence bold women.