a lot of toxicity in this subreddit

i'm so tired of seeing posts about how the "real world" or cis people don't see us as women and treat us like a third gender, or how all men treat us like we have mutilated penises (all things i've seen in recent posts). this isn't objective thinking and it isn't the reality, you either just grew up in a different generation or you're letting your internalized transphobia affect the way you see life. if you pass and choose to tell someone you're trans, they're not always gonna treat you differently. please let go of that fear. maybe it's because i'm gen z but i have mostly cis girl friends who didn't know and who genuinely treat me like anyone else (i see it myself and they've even made it a point to tell me multiple times). these posts and this subreddit is rooting fear in a lot of young girls that the outside world hates them and will never tolerate their past. sure, a lot of people will see us as a third gender. but things have significantly changed with newer generations. cis people have much more awareness and education to what dysphoria and being trans really is, and a lot of them will see you and treat you just like any other woman. going stealth and pushing yourself into a corner of fear and anxiety that anyone will find out isn't gonna make your relationships at work or uni or with anyone any better, you're only gonna be living with fear that the moment someone finds out, everything will be ruined - which is simply not true. note: i'm not saying don't go stealth. i'm stealth at work, with only 2 friends im really close to who know and both don't treat me any differently. just don't see the world in such a negative and anxious way and remember that a lot of our thoughts and how we think others see us is simply our internalized transphobia and anxiety and isn't the reality.

edit: i know redditors love picking specific parts to comprehend but holy fuck. let me reiterate. im not saying there's no transphobia and its all great. im also not saying going stealth is wrong (mind you i literally said im stealth myself). i'm just saying we should stop spreading this idea that anyone you share your past with will instantly see you as a third gender mutilated mentally ill man (which is what a lot of posts on here say) and a lot of people's attitude and view won't change. that's all my post is saying. im not saying not to be careful and tell everyone. just stop believing the entire world hates you, it's a miserable way to live. if you got anything else from it, that's on you <3