Why are all jealousy scenes so toxic now?

I miss funny jealousy scenes, or even gut punch jealousy scenes. I loved reading about MMCs stressed out, basically eating their fists, panicking and pacing and muttering under their breath and HATING the FMC's nice normal date etc. Or being supremely annoyed while in denial about why, with the people around them giving them knowing grins/the classic 'you're an idiot' talk. In most of mainstream CR/HR, the MMC did NOT take out his jealous frustration on the FMC. Didn't yell or carry her off or punch the wall near her head or whatever. I'm not saying there should be no place for this sort of romance (I do pick em up myself, A LOT), I just think the kind of scenes I'm talking about have steadily disappeared over the past few years. Extra frustrating because this absolves the MMC from doing any actual chasing/wooing/charming/groveling.

I know this a rant, but recent recs would be much appreciated!