Benevolent sexism is just called privilege

I'm really in a pickle here so can anyone help me figure things out, is positive bias towards a gender privilege or benevolent sexism? And why is the former used for men and the latter used for women?

I can't for the life of me sympathize or take any complaint about benevolent sexism seriously. Is it really sexism if it entails not dying in wars and getting more scholarship opportunities?

Edit: title should be "benevolent sexism should just be called privilege"