When will sex feel better than fap ??

Hey guys, I've been in the nofap journey primarily to ejaculate during sex. Having said that, I've been only part successful in the last three months with the longest nofap journey being 21 days. Now I'm on my 15th day and when I recently had sex, I again found the penetration no-where near my stimulation zone. My partner's handjob (she doesn't give blowjob) which goes for more than 5 mins is not equivalent to a single stroke of my right hand. Im afraid my sex compatibility is so poor. Anyone who have successfully navigated this, please tell me when did you find sex better than fap ?