My wife just told me she met another man

we were separated for a month due to my controlling issues. now I see its deeply insecurity driven and I was trying to control her. I also always felt shame around sex due to my porn addiction. And that definitely didn't helpm I couldn't be there emotionally available for her. I had done 90days before, but relapsed. My deep need for validation and acceptance, found itself in porn.

she told me yesterday she met someone. and that she is happy. we have a 2 year old daughter, I feel like I have failed my daughter.

I am working on myself, working on these traumas, letting put emotions, healing, loving myself. and working out.

I'm day 9. Working on emotions man. Working on self love.