What are MEN actually upto?

I know this post is going to be long and might sound a bit offensive to the boys out there, but I have things to express today. Basically, I have a sister, she is around 37, and  UNMARRIED. Intro dinu parda she is extremely sweet and the most disciplined woman I have ever seen, she has no such bad habits tbh aja samma yeti barsa vayo maile didi le kasai ko kura katea ko wah kasai ko barea ma naramro sochea ko ra bolea ko sunea ko chaina. Now since I addressed that she is unmarried and is 37, it's really difficult for her. It's not that she never wanted to get married ..of course, she is a woman she wants to have her own home, and her own family but she never found a good guy for herself. She had a relationship when she was in her 20s, but due to long distance they couldn't end up together. 

Ani after that she had heart surgery ani tes pachi tw things completely changed. Kta haru ko purposal aunea but didi ko heart ko surgery vako that hunea bitikai darunea ani harai dinea testo vayo which is completely understandable for some reasons. Birami kti sanga ko ba garnea testo samma vanyo, khasa ma (ASD Closer and MV repair) vako theo to ni 2013 ki khaile vako ho. Operation ko 5th-day ma doctor himself said aba dekhi you are fine you will not have any problems and complications anymore, timi pahil birami theu now you are free from disease ani testai nai vayo teti bela dekhi ahile samma didi lai kei pani vako chaina, kei disease lagea ko chaina aba joro ruga tw jaslai ni lagcha. But kura k vanea jo ni manchea aucha birami kati vancha reject garcha wah jaba kura badna khoj cha they demand things (Kathmandu ko locals haru ko demand tw baffreee) ani hami feri against those demands and dowry. Aba to demand full fill nagarda ba nai vayea na till now. Manchea haru le kura badau da badudai didi ko mutu nai fake ho, didi ko heart nai ferea ko k k vannera kura garna thalea how pathetic are people (Truly little knowledge is dangerous).

Main chain bichara didi ko self steem dherai hurt vayo hola ma tw dherai sano thea tyo sab bujhna but ahile jaba ma yo sab sochch mero man nai dukh cha ki bichara didi mathi k vako theo hola tyo bela vannera. Ek tw relatives ko pressure ba kin nagrea ko vannera arko afu vanda sano le ni ba garea ko dekhda kasto feel hudo ho bichara lai but ahile samma she has never shown her pain, she never tells me how alone she feels vannera, she always shows happiness in others happiness, she never expresses it she keeps inside her even drinks garea ko bela ni she never tells me but i know how she is feeling vannera some times i just want to hug her and cry but mero terto guts nai hudaina because ma afai affection shown garna ma looser chu.

Didi is PHD scholar ani afu jati kai padea ko kta pauna ni garo theo but she was ready to accept master was Mphil matra garea ko lai pani unless he is understandable because you know how dominating a man can be vannera. Dherai kta sanga kura garnu vayo dherai lai didi le nai reject garnu vayo. Koi sanga bolda ni garo huntheo rey because of their bolnea tarika jastai dominate garnea type, koi le mero ama buwa herea basnu parcha vanyo rey which she accepted but after that he said she has to go to Dhankuta to take care of his parents meanwhile he lives in birjung as a government officer like wtf? Bro lai nurse chea ko raicha wife haina. Yeti ustai theo ghari divorced man ko proposal aunea tyo tw jhan difficult to deal with ( Yo sab talking stage ko kura ho) Ab divorced man ko family ko expectation feri k vannu pari nai chiea ko uni haru lai afno hora chai muji kukur ko chak jasto vayea ni. Uni haru ko chora chori pali dinu parnea rey, ambitious huna paindaina rey, ambitious kti chiea ko nai china rey ab didi le terto PHD garu vako cha aba afno career nai na baunu? Like seriously auta divorced kta with 2 kids ko lagi afno ghar chodnu, and afno career choder tyo muji ko bachhna ni palnu? Ani PHD ko certificate chai k muter jalai dinu? Kura sundai ma mero tauko dukhcha yar k vannu. But also mero didi le okay thik cha I am ready to do it, i am ready to accept everything vannu vayo ani jaba they reach out to us with an official proposal they said hami tw Raithanea hum hami tw khatra ba garchum (And indirectly asked for things like gold and all) ma k feel gari rako thea tyo bela vannea kura ma yo post ma express ni garna sakdina tyo khatea haru ko kura sunda.. second ba garne arey ajha paisa ni chieo rey muji haru sala bikhari haru. Tyo tha vayea si didi herself rejected that proposal yo chai 2020 ko kura ho. Tes pachi pani dherai puropsal ayo she talked ani k k vayera kei progress vayena. Didi chai ekdam gyani huncha jase j vanyea ni mannu huncha. Yesto haina ki hami family le didi lai pressure deko chum ba garna, hami khile kura ni gadainam ba garnu yo tyo vannera taunt ni handinam na tw mero mummy baba le khile testo vannu huncha but yo muji relatives haru le last lang garchan, aba tw testo kei vadaina but paila tw jina muskil nai garea ko thea ani yei muji haru khojera laucha kta haru.  

Now moving on recently auta uncle le auta kta ko proposal launu vayo hai the guy seemed decent, 41years old, unmarried PHD Scholar UK ma basnea. Family yei Kathmandu ma vako kta. Tyo kta ko family le chai didi sanga ba garnua hattea garea ko k, huncha ni bato ma vetda pani didi lai ekdam maya dekhaunea, ahile nai ba garera lagena type ko gartheo. Didi le malai vannu vako theo ki i am so tired to this ba ko natak khile samma yo gari rakhnu vannera but maile didi lai they seem nice k vayo tw try for once vanea ani she agreed. Tyo kta le afai friend request pathayo ani tespachai they started talking. Aba Uk ra Nepal ko time difference we all know tei ni she talked with that guy, he seemed nice didi lai k k vannera flirt ni garyo rey, ekdam ba pachi yesto garnea testo garnea sab huncha ni sab guff din theo rey, busy huda ni message garnea, sab k sab malai yo man pardaina but timi le garda malai kei problem china yo tyo vannera he made his good image. They were talking 3 weeks jati, tyo bela mero didi was so happy, simile, like hun cha ni glow nai arko theo didi ko face ma, she was happy and I was soo satisfied and happy to see her tesari. She used to talk about him yesto cha usto cha vannera. Ani almost sab thok thik theo ba ko planning in vai rako theo tyo kta afai le sodyo timi lai kasto ba garna mancha vannera ani hami sab ba ma yo luanea tyo launa sab kura gardai thim and all of the sudden that guy stopped talking to my sister like completely stopped talking. Didi tried to reach out to him but there was no response from that side. He ghosted her as if that all never happened. Didi couldn't process it. Hijo samma ramrai bolea ko manchea now he is gone kai message chaina kai kei response china but messenger ra viber tira online nai dekhaucha but text ko reply chaina.. 

What went wrong there? Like what? How could he do that paila testo sab bolera auta attachment creat garera, expectations creat garera, flirt garera, ultai uskai family le purpose garera yesto garna paincha? Like how can someone be this dick? Kassam if mero ethics le allow gartheo vannea ni ma tesko photo ni yei post sanga attach garera expose gari dinthea hola. Ani after that my sister is so sad but again she doesn't show it, aba ghar ma koi tesko kura gardaina. Tyo khatea ko pariwar ni mukh dekhaudaina. Sala tesle vanna sakdaina ra ki i am not ready for marriage vannera sala badar ko chak jasto thopda cha tesko tyo khatea ko salale kina fake expectations deyo mero didi lai. Aba hijo samma katro love parea jasto garyo aja tw tyo manchea nai china, didi lai tw tyo k dream theo ki k theo process garna garo vayo hola, aba jati expect gardina vanda pani directly approach garera eahh phone call ma mitho mitho kura garera, office jada ni ready vako photo patheyera, katro nai care garea jasto gaera muji le ba ko planning garerea pachi didi lai ni aba chai ba huncha, aba mero family huncha aba mero life change huncha vannera kasto khalk hope ra expectations huncha tyo tw aba crash vayo tyo bubble futyo. 

Tesle mero didi ko self-esteem kati hurt vayo hola, bichara ghar bata bahira janu ni vako chaina  tyo paila ko glow ni harayo she never cries in front of us. Ma joke garea jasto garchu she laughs also, but I know her more than anyone. I feel like didi ek choti runu instead of laughing ek choti let everything come out I don't want her to suffer this way. Yo sab ma bichara ko kei galti pani chaina, tyo kta fai bolna ayo afai expectation deyo afai haryo bichara didi was only the one left with pain. Ma k garum to make her feel better, she is not showing me anything, but mero man ma tha cha ki she is not feeling well and suffering alone. I feel like taking revenge from that guy but k garnu yo muji sanga revenge leyera arko muji ni testai niklincha kati jana sanga revenge linu k ma? What was the necessity of that guy to do that to my sister, tyo muji lai k chiea ko theo hola? Mukh ma vani deko vayea vai haltheo ni khatea lea kina testo garyo?

Yo sab le malai yesto frustrate gari sako ki even I am starting to hate men, bichara mero didi , what must be she going through, kati self-doubt aye rako hola, kati k k chai vairako hola ani when i try to talk to her about this she changes the topic, and all i do is try to make her laugh, I wish I could do something for you. I know I can't tell her this in her face but I really wanna hug you and tell you how much you mean to me, you are so strong, You are an inspiration. No man out there deserves you. No man I repeat no man. I don't want my sister to suffer this way nor do I want kasai aru ko didi to go through all this. I wish kasai ko didi sanga yesto na hos. I feel so guilty that I am writing this on Reddit instead of confronting my love for Didi. Hijo rati I hugged her in her sleep and cried still I have so much inside my heart. I love you didi.