Is There an Age Where Your Living Situation Feels Less “Grown Up” in NYC?

TL;DR: Do you think there’s an age where certain living situations start to feel juvenile or judged (whether it’s living in a studio, having roommates, walkups etc.) -- or is NYC the exception?

I’m about to turn 35, living in a Manhattan a rent-stabalized studio I’ve had since I was 29. Maybe I’m just getting antsy, but part of me is questioning—does this still feel “grown up,” or does it start to seem like I haven’t moved forward in some way? I'm seeing my friends move into luxury buildings, true one-beds, having actual cityviews (and yes, paying significantly more than me) and while comparison is a stealer of joy, real estate envy is a real thing. Obviously I tell myself I'm doing the fiscally smart thing, I'm starting to question myself.

I know NYC is its own beast, and plenty of people live in all kinds of setups well into their 30s, 40s, etc. But I couldn't help but wonder if there’s an unspoken shift where people start to see certain living situations as a sign of not having “made it.” Is this just my own insecurity talking, or do people actually judge? And do men judge?

Would love to hear thoughts from other women in the city—especially those who’ve felt this way or have had conversations about it.

EDIT: Clarified, my apartment is rent stabilized, not rent controlled (although that would be a Monica Geller DREAM!)