Sex Compatibility Issues w/ GF

Hi gals!

I recently started a relationship with my gf. It's T4T, we're both trans women. I am head over heels, crazy for her so far. I don't know if I've ever been in a more mutually loving relationship than this one before. She likes me for me. That's never been true for me before. It's a nice change of pace from my past experiences leading up to this.

There's only one little hiccup so far: our sexual wants and needs are completely different.

She hasn't ever really experimented or tried much of anything before, especially not with a partner. Sex is just not a huge priority for her. I, meanwhile, am in heat pretty much all hours of the day. My sex drive is through the roof, I've hooked up with more people than I can even count (lost track somewhere after 30), and I'm pretty kinky as well. I'm a "pin me down, pull my hair and have your way with me" kind of gal. I find it helps me get out of my head and just enjoy sex instead of constantly overthinking everything that's happening (shout outs ADHD). Topping is also great! I don't really have bottom dysphoria like that and I enjoy using my parts for penetration. But no matter what I'm doing in bed, whether I'm getting railed or am the one doing the railing, I do it intensely. That's just what I find works for me.

Bearing all this in mind, we've had sex a few times now. And every time, things just feel off because in this one area of our relationship, we're just not on the same page. This is something we're already having discussions about. She says she wants to make me happy and satisfy my needs, but I don't want things to feel completely one sided or make her do anything she doesn't really want to do, or just to make me happy. I want to make sure her needs are met as well. The sexual dynamic seems to have solidified with me as the toppy, dominant one and her as the bottom, subby one. A tale as old as time. This dynamic makes both of us happy, so I'm cool with playing that role. But I don't always want to top. Anal is what I've found works for me when it comes to achieving orgasm.

This one area is the only sticking point in our relationship so far. I love what we've built so far and I want to make it last, because this really feels different. I'm seriously imagining a future with this woman and it feels so good. But... I need to come. Sexual satisfaction is not a "whatever" issue to me, I see it as a core part of who I am, a defining aspect of my femininity. It matters to me.

So I ask, what should we do? Has anyone else here been in a situation like this before? If so, how did you and your partner work through it? Did you and your partner work through it? Any and all advice would be appreciated.

Thanks!