I was almost r4ped by my aunt’s husband
I never imagined that someone I considered family could do something like this to me. I'm not sharing this for sympathy, but because I want to speak out about what happened, something that no one should ever have to go through and I need advices.
This happened in the morning. My aunt had just left to take her two children to school, leaving only me and her husband at home. I was still asleep in the room, wearing normal clothes not revealing, not "inviting," nothing that could ever justify what happened. I was dressed comfortably, just like any other day.
Suddenly, I was woken up by my aunt’s husband. In a calm and casual tone, he said, "There's a burglar in the house." I still half-asleep, I thought he was joking, he often made silly jokes to annoy me. I ignored him at first, but he kept insisting, pushing me to wake up.
Then, before I could fully process the situation, I felt something that sent a wave of panic through my body, he hugged me from behind and tried to kiss my neck while still repeating, "There's a burglar in the house, wake up." I froze. My mind couldn't comprehend what was happening. But the moment I fully woke up, I felt disgusted and terrified.
I immediately turned around to confirm who was behind me, hoping and praying that I was mistaken. But no, it was him. He grabbed my wrist tightly, as if trying to stop me from moving. But I fought back. I struggled with everything I had to get out of bed and away from him. I didn’t care if I hurt him, I just needed to escape so I accidently puched his mouth. And I did.
But what disgusted me the most was what he said afterward. He tried to flip the situation, making me feel guilty. He said I should be grateful because this was a "test." According to him, he only wanted to see if I could defend myself in case someone tried to assault me in the future. As if what he had just done was some kind of twisted lesson that I should appreciate. Then he laughed, saying it was just a joke.
At that moment, I wanted to tell my aunt. I wanted to scream and expose him for what he truly is. But I was scared.
Her husband has always been seen as a "good man", quiet, doesn’t smoke, doesn’t visit prostitutes, has a great background. No one would believe that he is capable of something like this. And to make things worse, my aunt had just recently escaped from financial debt because he finally found a well-paying job after being unemployed for so long. If I tell her, I might destroy her marriage. I might take away the stability she finally has after struggling for so long.
But on the other hand, I am terrified for their two daughters. What if he does the same thing to them in the future? What if they don’t even realize what’s happening to them, just like I didn’t at first? What if I stay silent and allow him to continue living as if nothing happened, knowing that he has already proven what he is capable of?
I feel trapped. If I speak up, I could ruin my aunt’s life. But if I stay silent, I might be allowing something far worse to happen in the future.
I don’t know what to do. What should I do?
and I just remembered that he also often made jokes about wanting to rape me, did he plan this all along? not just 1 or 2 times but he said many times that he made jokes about raping me. I'm still in the denial stage and disgusted with myself
((Ps: I was shocked by the number of responses, thank you for giving me a lot of advice. I have planned to tell my aunt as soon as possible.
Sorry if my language sounds a lot of poetic sentences, I did use the help of gpt chat to organize my sentences I used the help of gpt chat because I wrote this story a few hours after the incident, not a day after or a few weeks after that incident happened. the story is not coherent and not easy to read so I need the help of gpt chat to organize my story properly ☹.
Then about not drinking alcohol and not visiting prostitutes, in my country it is illegal. So anyone who does not do that is considered a good person or does not violate government regulations.
How do I know about he never hired a prostitute? My aunt and I are very close, whenever she talks about issues regarding men she then compares it to her husband who has never met or hired a prostitute. That's why I added that detail because I want you to know that my aunt's husband is known to be a good man or husband so I hesitate to tell my aunt about this harassment. I want good advice from this community by giving details that he is known as a good husband, so it will be difficult for my family or her to believe my story. ))
Update day 1: I'm fine, I didn't stay at my aunt's house anymore after what happened this morning. I'm still in a state of confusion, denial, and fear of something happening. I just regret why I didn't hit him harder, and now I'm not even crying. I don't understand why my response is as if I'm fine.
Update day 2: I want to give an update and explain that I'm not a minor, I'm already 24. Today I went back to my aunt's house to pick up some of my stuff. I was so scared when I met him and I couldn't even look into his eyes, but luckily I was accompanied by my lil sis. But why did he act so calm and not even threaten me? I'm starting to doubt my judgment about his actions. Was I overreacting to it? Was he really joking?